It seems to me that the often progressives are very affirming.
Maybe instead we should focus more on our mistakes
I’ve known people to avoid language of “what went wrong” to choose instead of “what should we have done differently.”
Often we avoid talking about “mistakes” because we worry that that will create a hurtful, negative vibe.
(Of course, we can also end up with the circular firing squad where we attack potential allies because they don’t have the correct position on class, race, economics, or strategy, but that’s another post).
In Yes!: 50 Scientifically Proven Ways to Be Persuasive by Cialdini describes a study on two different training program for firefighters. One study focused on how others had made good decisions in the past; the other one focused on other firefighters’ past errors.
Focusing on past errors was much more effective in training the firefighters to make good decisions.
This tells me that we need to create environments where it is OK to honestly asses and learn from mistakes, our own and those of others, not evade them to make sure nobody’s feelings get hurt.
If we don’t do that, well, that would be a mistake.